Its that time of year again.
Time to forgo the beard i love so much and take a stand for something more important than my facial hair.
In a year when I think that maculinity and ‘being a man’ has taken some hits I worry that men will do what we generally do and not talk about what bothers us.
Suicide is the biggest killer of men my age in the UK. That is a shocking fact!
We need to break the stigma that we can feel around mens health issues and shine a light on the reality that men suffer too and that its ok to not be ok.
It is good to talk – its not just a handy hashtag.
In a time when it generally seems to be ok to bash men for being masculine in a way its not ok to bash any other group, men need to stand up and show the difference between masculinity and masogyny or chauvinism.
Men get sick
Men have problems
Men need help
Men need to realise that they are men and ask for help
This year I became a father for the first time, a truly wonderful experience. An experience that got me thinking about my own mortality, I want to gros old to walk Harper down the aisle (in the unlikely event that she ever finds someone I deem good enough). I made a decision to be more proactive about my health.
Scariest thing? Phoning up to make a prostate exam appointment.
Second scariest thing? Going for it.
The truth however is, it was a blood test, not scary at all.
I dont have a huge circle of friends……not sure if there are even enough to form a rudimentary circle, but I know if I need them, they can be reached and will listen and, I hope, they know the same.
Again, in my experience, starting the conversation is the hard bit, but friends wont judge you and will listen and support.
Men are facing a crisis right now – WE ARE DYING TOO YOUNG
If you feel you can, help me raise a little cash through the MOvember foundation by clicking the link to my page below. More importantly help us break the stigma surrounding mens health – start the conversation