So here is a statistic for you……
The Biggest killer of men under 45 in this country is suicide!!!
Of the 6000 or more lives lost in Britain to suicide EVERY YEAR, 75% are men!
With all the terrible diseases we could catch, all the accidents we could have, all the potential ways we could kill each other, men still kill themselve more freuently than any thing else.
QUESTION – what goes on in our heads, as men, that leads us to take this, most ultimate, step with such staggering regularity?
ANSWER – No one knows
WHY? Because we are stubborn and flatley refuse to talk about it
What else could it be? There is no evidence to suggest that men get hit harder than women by depression.
Rather than talk aboit it we bury our heads in the sand (or bottle) and our depression remains hidden away behind a mask and multitude of ‘im fine’s
Its not the way we have been raised, we learn that feelings and talking about them is not for ‘real men’. Men get on with it and are ‘fine’
The problem with this is that we do have feelings and at times of stress they can get away from us and when they do……we are totally unequiped to deal with it.
I undetstand the stress that, as men, we go through. Maybe more now than at any point in my life. I have been through talking therapy (and I hate it), I have been on pills and wasted countless days staring at the floor, I have experienced the black clouds that decend and engolf you.
Im self employed and that bring stress and now I worry will I be able to provide for Harper, do I earn enough to give her the education she needs etc. Its ‘normal’ parent pressure i guess but it doesnt take much to see how it can snowball out of control.
The reality is that what Harper needs is her dad, and for him not to become another statistic.
The older I get the more I realise that its not just a nice phrase it is ‘good to talk’
As men we need to to do it more about all our health issues both seen and unseen